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"The best advice I
got from my aunt, the great singer Rosemary Clooney, and from my
dad, who was a game show host and news anchor, was: Don't wake up
at 70 years old sighing over what you should
have tried."
~George
Clooney
"Is immortality for older males having
regular intervals with younger women?"
This is not a trick
question. How old is too old and how young is to young? Do you
think a 46 year old man should be having an intimate personal
relationship with a 21 year old woman? I suppose it really doesn't
matter what we think because it happens! We at male nirvana have
spent some time researching this question of morality with 40yrs+
something males and 21yrs+ something females.
It would be true to say
most middle aged couples are not really comfortable with the 'older
man younger woman' scenario and from our experiences the middle
aged woman does not deal with this at all well. We have seen it
infuriate older women in public places like bars and restaurants.
What they seem to forget is along the way of the women's revolution
in the past twenty years young women have evolved very different
beasts at 21-23 plus years compared to twenty years ago. Young
males are also threatened by the younger women - older man
presence too. The social dynamics change somewhat when dating a
much younger woman.
Be careful of bitter
and twisted mothers (divine matriarch) if your an older man dating
her daughter as some mothers can be total control
freaks with their daughters
so read
this if you
think that might be the case. If you are an older man dating a
younger woman that will present quite a few challenges especially
if the mother is close to your age or marginally older. The
mother will hate you instantly.
But what about an age
difference of say 10 years only. This certainly makes sense if you
are in your 30's as hitching up with someone your own age on a
permanent basis means when you have kids she will be menopausal and
the kids will be going through adolescence. Marrying a younger
women when your in your mid 30's who is say 25 years old can avoid
all those dilemas down the track. Most men don't think that far
ahead but women do! If men were to change the way they actually
think about relationships with women and their age relative to how
old they are and what lies ahead what a huge mind shift this
would be for men. Question is could society deal with
it?
We live in a world of
"Species in Denial" when it comes to the unconventional. We know
there are a lot of single men in their forties, fifties, and
sixties plus that will declare younger women are they only way to
go. Women feel more safe and secure around an older man. An older
man knows what to do! The one main problem is younger women want
children. Doesn't make much sense having children in your 50's. But
then that depends on the man. One very important thing to remember
here is that it is often the younger woman who pursues the older
man. There is very little written of much interest about this
subject but we did manage to find this -
over the
hill?
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