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Male Depression

Depression is a state of mind, not an emotional state. To get rid of depression you need to change the way you think. Depression mostly results from a thought pattern that is all about hopelessness and gloom. This leads to very poor mental health issues.

The depression, suicide and male menopause issues world wide are of concern to us at malenirvana.com and our research has revealed there are far more depressed men out there than they are prepared to admit.

In 2001 suicide, with 2,454 recorded deaths, was the leading cause of death from injury in Australia, accounting for 31% of all injury-related deaths. Transport accidents were the next most common cause of injury-related death, 2,004 or 25%. Suicide rates for men are higher than for women in all age groups, and currently men are almost three times more likely than women to commit suicide. This gender gap has widened considerably over the past few decades: in 1979 the female to male gender ratio for suicides was 2:3 and in 2002 it was around 1:3. This difference is particularly striking for young people, with males between 25 and 34 almost four times more likely than women to kill themselves.

We would like to re-ignite the male spirit away from these contagious issues and get males to understand as they grow older what is happening to them which is subjecting them to a lot of physical and mental changes. Before we have been encouraged into thinking this was only women's domain!

We also want to re-ignite the male spirit in younger males who are suffering from depression for whatever reasons. We also know Alcohol and Drug Abuse plays a huge part in depression issues. Manic Depression or Bipolar Disorder is misunderstood as well. Changing your mind set which is the way you think about things is the first step. The input of our thoughts determines the output of our actions. As A Man Thinketh. Good mental health is totally achievable by changing the negative thought patterns that can emerge.

Australian Help

Lifeline - 13 11 14
Mensline - 1300 789 978
Dads in Distress - 1300 853 437

 

Differences between Male and Female depression:

Men are more likely to act out their inner turmoil while women are more likely to turn their feelings inward. The following chart from Jed Diamond's book, Male Menopause, illustrates these differences.

Female depression Male depression
Blame themselves Feel others are to blame
Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
Feel anxious and scared Feel suspicious and guarded
Avoids conflicts at all costs Creates conflicts
Always tries to be nice Overtly or covertly hostile
Withdraws when feeling hurt Attacks when feeling hurt
Has trouble with self respect Demands respect from other
Feels they were born to fail Feels the world set them up to fail
Slowed down and nervous Restless and agitated
Chronic procrastinator Compulsive time keeper
Sleeps too much Sleeps too little
Trouble setting boundaries Needs control at all costs
Feels guilty for what they do Feels ashamed for who they are
Uncomfortable receiving praise Frustrated if not praised enough
Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses and doubts Terrified to talk about weaknesses and doubts
Strong fear of success Strong fear of failure
Needs to "blend in" to feel safe Needs to be "top dog" to feel safe
Uses food, friends, and "love" to self-medicate Uses alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self medicate
Believe their problems could be solved only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) Believe their problems could be solved only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them better
Constantly wonder, "Am I loveable enough?"

Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved enough?"

 

 

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