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Depression is a state of mind, not an
emotional state. To get rid of depression you need to change the
way you think. Depression mostly results from a thought pattern
that is all about hopelessness and gloom. This leads to very poor
mental health issues.
The depression, suicide and male menopause
issues world wide are of concern to us at malenirvana.com and our
research has revealed there are far more depressed men out there
than they are prepared to admit.
In 2001 suicide, with 2,454 recorded deaths,
was the leading cause of death from injury in Australia, accounting
for 31% of all injury-related deaths. Transport accidents were the
next most common cause of injury-related death, 2,004 or
25%. Suicide rates for men are higher than for
women in all age groups, and currently men are almost three times
more likely than women to commit suicide. This gender gap has
widened considerably over the past few decades: in 1979 the female
to male gender ratio for suicides was 2:3 and in 2002 it was around
1:3. This difference is particularly striking for young people,
with males between 25 and 34 almost four times more likely than
women to kill themselves.
We would like to re-ignite the male spirit
away from these contagious issues and get males to understand as
they grow older what is happening to them which is subjecting them
to a lot of physical and mental changes. Before we have been
encouraged into thinking this was only women's
domain!
We also want to re-ignite the male spirit in
younger males who are suffering from depression for whatever
reasons. We also know Alcohol and Drug Abuse plays a huge part in depression issues.
Manic Depression or Bipolar
Disorder is
misunderstood as well. Changing your mind set which is the way you
think about things is the first step. The input of our thoughts
determines the output of our actions. As A Man Thinketh. Good
mental health is totally achievable by changing the negative
thought patterns that can emerge.
Australian Help
Lifeline - 13 11
14
Mensline - 1300 789
978
Dads in Distress - 1300 853
437
Differences between Male and Female
depression:
Men are more likely to act out their inner
turmoil while women are more likely to turn their feelings inward.
The following chart from Jed Diamond's book, Male
Menopause, illustrates these differences.
| Female depression
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Male depression
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| Blame themselves
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Feel others are to blame
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| Feel sad, apathetic, and worthless
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Feel angry, irritable, and ego inflated
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| Feel anxious and scared
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Feel suspicious and guarded
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| Avoids conflicts at all costs
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Creates conflicts
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| Always tries to be nice
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Overtly or covertly hostile
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| Withdraws when feeling hurt
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Attacks when feeling hurt
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| Has trouble with self respect
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Demands respect from other
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| Feels they were born to fail
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Feels the world set them up to fail
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| Slowed down and nervous
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Restless and agitated
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| Chronic procrastinator
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Compulsive time keeper
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| Sleeps too much
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Sleeps too little
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| Trouble setting boundaries
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Needs control at all costs
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| Feels guilty for what they do
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Feels ashamed for who they are
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| Uncomfortable receiving praise
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Frustrated if not praised enough
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| Finds it easy to talk about weaknesses
and doubts |
Terrified to talk about weaknesses and
doubts |
| Strong fear of success
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Strong fear of failure
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| Needs to "blend in" to feel safe
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Needs to be "top dog" to feel safe
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| Uses food, friends, and "love" to
self-medicate |
Uses alcohol, TV, sports, and sex to self
medicate |
| Believe their problems could be solved
only if they could be a better (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend)
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Believe their problems could be solved
only if their (spouse, co-worker, parent, friend) would treat them
better |
| Constantly wonder, "Am I loveable
enough?" |
Constantly wonder, "Am I being loved
enough?"
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