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An article we read on the net from the UK
sparked some interest with us at malenirvana recently. It quoted
that 75% of women would never experience domestic violence and the
same 25% could or would. That is the 25% group were continually in
this situation of domestic violence which indicated and even quoted
“it’s always the same women”…I suppose you could read into that
they either attract a certain type of man or continue with the same
behavior patterns. Is it fair to say that women fall into 6 groups
as men do -
1. Those that were raised in loving couple
family environments
2. Those that were raised by a
separated/divorced single parent i.e. mother who allows very little
time for the fathers allocated shared child contact
time
3. Those that were raised by a single parent
i.e. father with very little or no mother
contact
4. Those that were raised without their real
parents…with little or no contact with their real
parents.
5. Those that were raised within a domestic
violence home with both parents dysfunctional behavior continuing
regularly
6. Those that were raised in an unhappy
family environment, where parents divorced and re- married or had
live in relationships i.e. step family
relationships.
If you were looking for a partner with a
rounded up bringing which one would you pick? Girls raised by
single parent fathers (3) rated highly as well balanced girls/women
compared to girls raised by single parent mothers (2). (1) scored
high for well balanced girls/women for obvious reasons but No.s 2,
4, & 5 did not. No. 6 has lots of different issues which
could challenging? Reasons for that may be repeat learned behavior
until they can break the cycle? We did some research of our own in
Australia and came up with this information –
* Women ages 18-24yrs were more likely to have
experienced violence and assault than older women 19% compared with
6.8% for 35-44 year-olds and 1.2% for women over
55.
* Males comprise 98% of the defendants where
criminal charges are laid for domestic violence; this may be
because women are less able physically to hurt a man. We as males
know that women possess an innate ability to ‘hurt’ males in many
non physical ways and perhaps that is the paradox here? The effects
emotionally on women and children from domestic violence can scar
for a lifetime...We did find was a huge amount of data in relation
to social, health and economic costs and risks. The effects on
children from family violence were also very well covered with
effects and data. An overview of the issues on domestic violence
also covered prevention and intervention by
• Working with young people to break
intergenerational cycles of violence
• Working with victims and perpetrators to
break the cycle of violence
• Working with communities to educate
against violence
What we also found was it is (outside of the
human condition) extremely difficult to access information on ‘why’
domestic violence occurs with men against women particularly in the
18-24 year old women age group. The Northern Territory and
Tasmania in Australia featured highly in government reports and
this proved that domestic violence rates were highest in very
remote Australia, followed by outer regional localities. By
contrast, major cities had the lowest rates of domestic
violence.
Globally we discovered some countries made
Australia look tame in comparison. Lima in Peru has issues, so does
India with regard to domestic violence against women.In countries
where religion and custom over rules sense and the law being a
woman is certainly a disadvantage. One report we researched from
Australia found that some 32% of cases of domestic violence against
women go unreported. Obviously fear plays a huge part
there.
Now get this: 60% of all child abuse is
committed by women with sole custody.
If we go back to the top of the page and if
we are to believe what was written in the UK, “it’s always the same
women” then some of the reports we did read about breaking the
various collective cycles of domestic violence begin to make sense.
We also found this link no to violence .Our research will continue…watch this
space…
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