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Why we end up with who we do is not
necessarily the question but if we follow on ourselves with the
same type of partners with the same results which might not be
favorable perhaps we need to look closer at why we end up with who
we do.
A lifetime partner is a big decision, and
almost 50% of us get it wrong with divorce rates around 45-47%.
Mostly we end up marrying season partners or 'passage mates' and
let our true soul mates slip by us. Most of us have had 'passage
mate' relationships. For men learning to say NO is a big hurdle to
overcome. Lots of men jump into "mini marriages" without haste and
end up living with their girlfriends before even thinking through
any process of a relationship or negotiating any relationship
terms. Its best to see how long a relationship lasts without going
down the "mini marriage" line.
Also long before you decide she's the one
check out the mother if she has one. Make no mistake she will
introduce you to her 'inner circle' of girlfriends to see if you
pass their test. She will then want you to meet her family. Her
mother will be a guide on what she will look like at the same age.
This is like a glimpse into the future so don't pass up the
opportunity. The mother and what she looks like in her middle years
will be your final guide to a simple decision making process.
Some mothers can be total control
freaks with their daughters
so read this if you
think that might be the case
Consider relationship coaching if you seem to be following a pattern that
just simply is not working for you. Seek it anyway even if you
think you know what you are doing.
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